In this two-part series about how to know your purpose or your calling I'm going to discuss two different ideas
One is based on the negative
The next piece will be based on the positive
Jumping right in -
So, what pisses you off??
Nothing fancy about it
Now, if you're the type of person that gets tweaked by all sorts of stuff, that's not what I mean
What sort of injustice or movement or trend that whenever you see it or experience it bothers you to the core of your being?
A significant part of the reason Instigation Nation was birthed was due to what I saw for years, in and around churches
It started with something I still remember very vividly
Not because I'm still bothered by it, not at all
It's because it was the first time I tried to exercise resolution of a conflict and use the bible's wisdom to do it
What happened when I tried brought me to disillusionment loudly & immediately
Let's define that word first so we're all on the same frequency
a feeling of disappointment resulting from the discovery that something is not as good as one believed it to be
Source: The Google Monster
Now, the fact that I watched men I respected, and held in a place of honor in my heart CHOSE to defend wrong, no ... ignore the wrong was absolutely unbelievable to me at that time
These were pastors and pretty decent humans
I look back now almost 18 years and realize they were REALLY wrong but they made their choice
Shortly after that something very serious happened involving an older man and younger women that was handled nearly the same way... via chicken shittery
I was fucking pissed
That's the truth
That's when our involvement there ended
And on it went
Again, all forgiveness has been given. I'm sharing the story of how this came about
From so-called "pastors" taking advantage of their followers for their own side businesses outside the church to extremely unloving attitudes toward their own families to leaders or even regulars at churches being self-righteous pricks and putting heavy burdens on people, man, I've seen too much to let it rest
Now, something to understand about me:
I'm a born fighter, protector, & defender; it's how I'm built
I've NEVER been able to tolerate a bully or injustice
As a skinny little kid sometimes I kept my fearful mouth shut when I saw someone picked on but it bothered me deeply
Now that I'm a grown man with a moderately intimidating stare & a touch of psychosis I don't tolerate that crap, even though I'm still kinda skinny
Don't laugh, you're a little cray cray too 😉
The long and short of it is this, I've been sitting in churches and witnessing fake ass church folk way too long, taking notes on what I saw as misguided or whatever, and talking to friends over beer or wine about what I thought had to change
That's what I'm doing with Instigation Nation (18-minute Instigation Nation introductory video on YouTube)
I've been asked for a long time by people I meet if I'm a pastor
I've been told more than a couple times I "should start a church"
I don't believe I'm called to do that and frankly don't want anything to do with it
If God takes me there... fine
But I believe this is my route for now, and in some form, the long term
But I do have a vision of Instigation Nation serving churches so they can serve their people like Jesus would
Like, imagine this... IN will teach pastors how to be like Jesus. Lol, how funny is that?
I mean, we don't see too many that seem to understand how to do that
They're typically so full of... schooling that they forget there're PEOPLE sitting out there and moreover there are people DYING IN THE STREETS and marriages dying by the hour and kids abandoning their homes to escape the trauma
And too many pastors are talking about clothing and tattoos and sex and alcohol
To that I say, "What the fuck is wrong with you guys?"
Let's not forget the kids who grow up in forced religion and dogmatic standards that JESUS NEVER PUT ON PEOPLE
What happens when they graduate high school?
They deuce out ... FAST (they leave and they don't come back)
Actually, as soon as they can, they get drunk, hump the first piece of booty they can and get all tatted up... that's called a middle finger to the authorities who messed them up
And yet the pharisees will blame the parents that they've known for years or they'll simply lament over the "children being lost"
It's soooo cliche'
And that's why I am not the guy to start your next church
I'm the guy that sits with that kid when he's been out in the world for a bit and gives him hope that Jesus really is cool and awesome and loves him and isn't looking to slam his every move
I LOVE that part of my life
We will always serve people directly... NOTHING matters more than the souls of people
I believe there are A LOT of people out there starving for this message of freedom with their Creator
I believe a much fewer number are ready for this kind of message today
But that's going to change
As soon as more people stop being so freaking uptight and so easily offended, they're going to wake up to real life, the one Jesus knew completely
Look, I've studied and lived this stuff nearly every day of my life for 19 years, minus the 4 year bender I went on, but even then I held on to God... loosely (He held on to me tightly)
I know the pulse of the people who would walk with God if the people that claimed His name weren't such douche bags
Their pulse is weak and thready but it's there
Instigation Nation exists because I finally grew the courage or stopped disobeying God's call to speak up and put this message out there
For too long I let people suffer alone, disconnected from the real people that love Jesus, not the ones you see on Sunday putting on their weekly show... they do dress pretty though
Look, I know it's not all of them but it's more than enough to have millions of people say they believe in God but want nothing to do with His people (that's an outside link to an article worth your time, go to it when you finish this and it will make a lot of sense)
Facts are facts
And THAT is a major part of what we're disrupting
So, find that thing that won't let you go and bothers you to your core
You find that and you're well on your way to understanding why you were born
Because I promise you, God don't make no junk and you have something important to do and you can take that to the bank
Thanks guys, love you!
**PS. Part 2 is here - It's geared toward love and I'm going to give practical examples and a story or two
Ever heard motivational speakers (or anyone) say -“Fall down 7 times, get up 8!” or “Fall down 99 times, get up 100!”?
Forget the quantity, you know the phrase, right??
Yeah, TOTALLY DUMB
Watch this: How can I fall once but get up twice? See. Stupid
Plus, tell that to Sonny Liston after kissing Cassius Clay’s right fist
Man, I hooted and hollered for that motivational mumbo-jumbo for years
Today’s message is short, sweet and STRONG
Look, facts are facts … life can hit really hard sometimes
What if you could take one of those classic hay-makers of life… and STAY STANDING?
I know, I know, sometimes we get hit and it feels like a heartless robotic Russian mountain of flesh with a slave-driving wife
But I contend (see what I did there?) contend, like a contender in boxing, I know, clever, right!
I contend that if you use what I’m about to share, you can withstand ANY hit life levels your way and stay standing
Let me quickly define what I mean:
Standing, in this context, means you do not lose much steam, you do not slow down that much, you definitely do not lay on the couch and take the next stop at Depression-ville aka binge-watching Netflix when you have a life to live (that place SUCKS)
You also don’t get lost in motivational videos on YouTube for days or weeks, while forgetting all concepts of personal hygiene and healthy nutrition… that’s really bad
(I’ve been to all those places and more)
Essentially, you keep moving forward, no matter what
I’m making you a promise here and like I tell my kids you never say something unless you’re going to deliver on it… ever (like the parent that says, “One more time and I’ll …”
Yeah, those parents don’t deliver and their kids don’t respect them)
So, it’s totally possible and it’s easier than you might think
Any time anything happens we don’t like, especially the big stuff, we usually say something to the effect of “Why did this happen to me?” or “Why does this always happen to me?” or something similar to that (Heaven forbid the classic, “EFF MY LIFE”, ughh, that’s so poisonous to your health and wellbeing, don’t say that, ever)
Instead of that thought process, change it to this:
Okay, this is happening for me, I need to figure out how I can use it for my goals
This is a mindset or a paradigm shift
We are literally forming new paths in our brains to transform old or damaging thought processes
Most of us have been trained by our upbringing, the people around us, TV and our environment to look at things as “good” or “bad” and if we define them as bad, like a water heater going out or a flat tire, and we immediately take the victim position and believe that somehow God or the universe is doing painful stuff to us
It’s just a lie we’ve bought and become experts at
It’s totally changeable and in a very short time period, like, right now, if you choose to
Next time something hits you, catch yourself and realize it is happening for you and look at it from a different angle and find the leverage or the advantage in it, I promise you it’s there… it doesn’t matter what it is
This is what martial artists and wrestlers already know… use the opponent’s weight or force against them
This does a couple things:
For one, you’re instantly a victor rather than a victim, this breeds confidence, which is very important
Two, you’re taking control and deciding what that thing means in your life and how you’re going to use it instead of laying down and letting it determine YOUR life for you
That’s it! Do this starting NOW
Get it in your head however you can, write it on your hand, the bathroom mirror with a dry erase marker, put a note in your pocket, just do something!
Before you know it, you’ll surprise yourself and you’ll stop losing momentum every time something hits the finances, the health, the career or whatever goal you’re working toward
Then you’ll look at that mean Russian mountain of flesh and say, “Thanks, bitch!”
And instead of laying there feeling sorry for yourself, you’ll be winning for a change and that is something to be proud of! (like Rocky, below)
God bless America!!
PS Click here to see a short video I did on this
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